App Sexting

Sexting examples: 70+ texts to send

The short answer. Good sexting examples are specific, suggestive and end with an invitation to reply, like "I have a plan for tonight and you're the main character." Start sweet, move to teasing, and only go hotter when the other person matches your energy.

Most people don't need a lecture on sexting. They need words. This page is a bank of more than seventy original sexting examples, sorted by who you're talking to, where you are in the relationship and how much heat you want, plus a simple way to turn the temperature up one notch at a time without guessing.

Every example is written for two consenting adults. They stay suggestive rather than graphic, which is not a limitation: the texts that work best almost always leave something to the imagination. Steal them, tweak them, or use them as a template for something that sounds more like you.

Each list uses the same three heat levels:

  • Sweet: affectionate, a little flirty. Safe almost anytime.
  • Teasing: clearly suggestive, playful, with an obvious wink.
  • Hot: for when you both know where this is going. Still about anticipation and desire, never a play-by-play.

What makes a good sexting text?

Before the examples, the short version of what separates a text that lands from one that gets a "lol ok":

  • It's about them. A detail only they would recognize (the hoodie, the laugh, the way they said your name) beats any generic compliment.
  • It hints instead of describing. Anticipation is the whole game. "I have plans for you" does more work than a paragraph.
  • It invites a reply. A question, a dare, an unfinished sentence. Give them something to answer.
  • It matches the moment. A hot message at 9 a.m. on a Tuesday lands differently than at 11 p.m. on a Friday.

If you want the craft behind tone and pacing, our dirty texting tips go deeper. For openers by time of day, see our sexting ideas.

What are good sexting messages for him?

Sweet

  • Just saw a guy wearing your cologne at the grocery store. Had to leave the cereal aisle.
  • You fixed my sink and now I can't stop thinking about your forearms. Unfair.
  • Random reminder that your voice when you're half asleep is my favorite sound.
  • I wore your shirt to bed. It's mine now, sorry.

Teasing

  • I bought something new. You don't get to see it until Friday.
  • Guess what I'm doing right now. Wrong. Guess again.
  • You have no idea how hard it was to behave at dinner tonight.
  • Your only job this weekend is to keep your hands busy. I'll explain.
  • I'm going to say one word when you walk in tonight, and you'll know exactly what it means.

Hot

  • Tonight, you're not allowed to touch me for the first ten minutes. Let's see how long you last.
  • I keep replaying the way you looked at me last night. I want that look again, slower.
  • Clear your evening. I'm in charge tonight and I have a list.
  • I'd tell you what I'm imagining right now, but I'd rather show you at 8.

What are good sexting messages for her?

Sweet

  • I can still smell your shampoo on my pillow. I'm not washing it.
  • You laughed at my dumb joke today and I've been proud of myself for six hours.
  • Watching you dance in the kitchen last night is my new screensaver, mentally.
  • Thinking about you in that yellow sundress. That's it. That's the text.

Teasing

  • Fair warning: when I see you, I'm kissing you before you finish saying hi.
  • I've been told I'm very good at following instructions. Want to test that?
  • Pick a number between one and five. I'll tell you what it unlocks later.
  • Your lipstick ended up on my collar. My coworkers have questions.
  • I can't focus. You're the reason. Please advise.

Hot

  • Tonight I want to take my time with you. No phones, no rushing, nowhere to be.
  • Tell me the one thing you've been wanting me to do. I'm listening, and I'm taking notes.
  • I keep thinking about the back of your neck. You know why.
  • Wear the black one tonight. I'll pretend I don't notice for exactly one drink.

What can you text when you've just started talking?

Early on, you're testing chemistry, not making promises. Keep it light, and let them set the pace as much as you do.

Sweet

  • Okay, I'll admit it: I checked my phone four times hoping it was you.
  • You're dangerously easy to talk to. Is that a strategy?
  • Tell me something about you that isn't on your profile.

Teasing

  • I'm trying to decide if you're trouble or just look like it.
  • You seem like someone who's very good at keeping secrets. Are you?
  • We need a second date just so I can find out what you meant by that smile.
  • I have a theory about you. I'll share it if you earn it.

Hot

  • I've been thinking about what kissing you would be like. Strictly for research.

Notice that "hot" here is still mild. With someone new, you don't know their boundaries, their sense of humor or whether their phone is private yet. The guide to starting covers that first step in detail.

What can you text a long-term partner?

The challenge in a long relationship isn't nerves, it's routine. These lines are meant to break the "did you pick up milk" rhythm.

Sweet

  • Ten years and you still give me butterflies when you walk into a room. It's annoying.
  • I just found the photo from our first trip to the lake. Look at us.
  • You're the best decision I've ever made, and I once found twenty dollars in a coat.

Teasing

  • The kids are at your mom's Saturday. Just putting that out there.
  • Remember that hotel in Savannah? I'd like a sequel.
  • I'm making dinner tonight. Dessert is a surprise. You're the surprise.
  • Let's pretend we just met. Hi, I'm new here. Come here often?

Hot

  • When you get home, don't say anything. Just come find me.
  • I want a whole night with you that has nothing to do with chores, bills or the dog.
  • I miss the way you used to look at me across a crowded room. Do it tonight.

Closing my eyes and picking up exactly where we left off.

More examples

What can you text in a long-distance relationship?

Distance turns texting into the main stage. Use the time difference and the wait to your advantage. Our guide to long-distance sexting has rituals that keep it going for months.

Sweet

  • It's 7 a.m. here and the first thing I did was look at your time zone.
  • Counting down: 18 days, one airport and a very long hug.
  • Your hoodie still smells like you. I'm rationing it.

Teasing

  • When I land, I'm not letting you take me to dinner first.
  • Describe your room right now. I want to picture exactly where you are.
  • I made a list of everything I'm going to do when I see you. It's long. It's color-coded.

Hot

  • Fall asleep tonight thinking about the first thing I'll do when I walk through your door.
  • Tell me where you'd want my hands if I were next to you right now. Then tell me why.

How do you reply when they text "wyd"?

"Wyd" (what you doing) is often an invitation in disguise. Here are replies by heat level:

Sweet

  • Wishing I was doing it with you.
  • Watching a show I can't follow because I keep thinking about you.

Teasing

  • Getting into something more comfortable. Why do you ask?
  • Nothing I can describe in a text that your mom might read over your shoulder.
  • Waiting for you to ask a better question.

Hot

  • Lying here thinking about you. Want to know what about?
  • Deciding whether to tell you what I was just daydreaming about. Convince me.
  • Nothing yet. Give me a reason to be up past midnight.

What are good sexting texts that ask questions?

Questions are the most underrated sexting tool: they keep the other person in the driver's seat and tell you what they actually like. For a much longer list, see our flirty questions.

  • What's the first thing you noticed about me?
  • What were you thinking about right before you texted me?
  • Where's the most unexpected place you've wanted to kiss me?
  • Slow or impatient tonight? Choose wisely.
  • What's something you've always wanted to hear me say?
  • If I showed up right now, what would you be wearing?
  • Give me one word for how you want tonight to feel.

The safest way to turn up the heat is a staircase, not an elevator. One step at a time, and every step depends on the last reply.

Step 1: compliment. "You looked so good today, it was distracting." Step 2: memory. "Still thinking about how close you sat to me on the couch." Step 3: wish. "I wish you were here right now." Step 4: invitation. "If you were here, what would you want to happen?" Step 5: anticipation. "Okay, now I can't think about anything else. Tell me more."

Move up a step only if the reply matches or raises your energy. If they answer with a one-word "lol" or change the subject, step back down. That's not rejection, it's information.

A few check-in lines that don't kill the mood:

  • Is this fun for you? Tell me honestly.
  • Too much, or keep going?
  • We can keep it PG tonight, I'm happy either way.
  • Want me to slow down or speed up?

A clear "no", "not tonight" or silence after a bold message means stop, without sulking or pushing. Some couples agree on a quick code like 🟢 🟡 🔴, explained in our sexting emojis guide.

What should you never send?

  • Anything to someone who hasn't shown interest. Unsolicited sexual messages aren't flirting, they're unwanted.
  • Anything to someone whose age you're unsure of. Everything on this page is for adults. If there's any doubt, stop.
  • Photos you couldn't live with seeing again. Words can be forwarded too, but a picture with your face on it is harder to explain. Our guide to sexting without pics shows how far words alone can go.
  • Lines copied word for word to several people. People compare screenshots more than you'd think.
  • Anything while the phone might not be private. Lock-screen previews and shared tablets have ended more than one secret.

How do you make these examples sound like you?

Templates work best as scaffolding. To make a line yours:

  1. Swap in a real detail. "That yellow sundress" becomes the actual thing they wore.
  2. Use your own rhythm. If you never use exclamation points, don't start now.
  3. Match their energy. Mirror their emoji habits, message length and vocabulary.
  4. Keep the cliffhanger. Whatever you change, end with something they want to answer.

If you're texting someone new and want an extra layer of privacy while you get to know each other, our sexting safety guide explains how to protect your identity and what scams look like.

Frequently asked questions

What is an example of a sexting message?

A classic example is "I bought something new. You don't get to see it until Friday." It's suggestive, personal and leaves the other person curious enough to reply.

What should I text him to get him in the mood?

Mention a specific memory, hint at a plan and give him something to answer, for example "I keep replaying the way you looked at me last night. I want that look again."

What are some flirty texts for her?

Compliment a real detail, then tease: "I can still smell your shampoo on my pillow" or "Fair warning: I'm kissing you before you finish saying hi."

How do you start sexting without being awkward?

Start with a sweet or teasing line rather than a hot one, ask a question, and move up only if the reply matches your tone. A check-in like "too much?" is never awkward.

How do you know if sexting is going too far?

Shorter replies, jokes every time you push, long silences or a clear no are signs to slow down or stop. When in doubt, ask.